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Every person is a world with infinite potential. Therapy works when it helps you unlock that world
I’m Yonasan Bender, providing warm and structured therapy that taps into your potential to help you actualize the life you deserve.
Drawing from years of experience and training, I can help you navigate and solve life’s most serious problems. From anxiety, depression, loneliness and anger, to parenting, marital conflict, personality disorders, autism, eating disorders, and trauma. No matter the challenge, there is a way forward.
My Approach
My approach to therapy is grounded in understanding the underlying structure of each therapeutic tradition I draw from.
These therapies are not interchangeable techniques. Each rests on a distinct model of human nature, change, emotion, and behavior.
I work from the inside of those models understanding what they assume, what they target, where they are strongest, and where their limits begin.
Cognitive
CBT, REBT
Focuses on reshaping unhelpful thinking that drive anxiety, depression, and rumination. Techniques like cognitive restructuring and thought records help change distorted beliefs. Especially effective for anxiety disorders, OCD, and mood disorders.
Behavioral
ACT, ERP, BA
Targets avoidance and builds flexibility changing learned behavior directly. Exposure therapy and behavioral activation retrain the brain through action. Ideal for phobias, autism, depression-related inertia, and habit change.
Emotional
DBT, EFT, IFS
Helps regulate overwhelming emotions and heal attachment wounds. Skills like distress tolerance and parts work build emotional awareness and stability. Effective for emotional reactivity, shame, and relational sensitivity.
Psychodynamic
Carl Jung, ORT
Explores the deeper symbolism shaping the inner world. Through dream analysis, active imagination, and archetypes, the unconscious is integrated. Helpful for identity crises, recurring life themes, and personal transformation.
Couples
Gottman, EFT, IBCT
Works on interaction cycles rather than “who’s right.” Tools like Love Maps, softened start-up, and attachment repair conversations rebuild connection. Effective for conflict, emotional distance, betrayal repair, improved intimacy and healthy sexuality.
Trauma
CPT, Processing
Addresses how trauma lives in memory and the nervous system. Techniques like narrative building and structured processing reduce reactivity and restore safety. Designed for PTSD, complex trauma, and dissociation.
Therapy Doesn't Need to Feel Vague
A Clear Three
Step Process
Clarify the Core Problem
We identify the patterns keeping you stuck — emotional, behavioral, relational.
Build a Personalized Treatment Plan
We create a structured strategy using proven therapeutic methods.
Build Measurable Change
You develop skills, insight, and strength that translate into real-world results.
important things you should know
Questions And
Answers
Does therapy work?
The short answer is yes. Therapy is more effective than most trusted medical procedures. Within psychology, it’s more effective than anti-anxiety and anti-depressant medications. It’s also more cost effective in the long run without the side effects of medication. On average, 80% of people who seek therapy do much better than those who choose not to
Therapy is like any other medical approach. It’s science driven helping the vast majority of people. At the same time, different problems need different “doses” of therapy. Some problems are more straight forward than others. Some issues are sorted out after 12-16 sessions but others can take longer and be much more serious.
Not everyone responds to all medical procedures and therapy is no different. It’s more tricky because there is also the human element. If you don’t feel therapy is working for you with your therapist, talk to him about it. Often this will sort out the issues between the two of you. It might also be worth consider seeing someone else before giving up on it. It’s reasonable to try out three or more therapists before you settle on one to work with.
What can I expect in the process?
There are several phases in therapy.
Therapy begins with an assessment phase. During the first few sessions the goal is to figure out what the different issues on the table are. To what extent and where are they manifest in the client’s life? When do they occur and how do they unfold? Is there any other issues the client might not have thought of that also play a role directly or indirectly?
Different types of questionnaires and assessments are used to zero in on problems. Often, people think their situation is worse than what it really is. So, this phase has the nice side effect of also being a therapeutic intervention. The assessment phase also helps track progress. Is treatment working, should something else be tried, or a new direction explored?
Once the assessment phase is complete, the goals and targets are set to work towards. What success would look like is defined. Here the client and therapist also negotiate what type of style of therapy would work best. Not every type of therapy works the same. Some are better at treating certain problems more than others. Also, clients might already have a preferred approach they know works for them
The last stage is working towards the goals that were mutually established. Often, each session ends with a weekly assignment or an experiment to try. This aspect of treatment is key. It takes what is done inside the therapy hour and brings it into the client’s “real life”.
Can I contact you at anytime?
It’s important for the therapist to be available outside of treatment hours. This enables the tools learned in session to be applied in the client’s real life.
For this reason Yonasan Bender does take phone calls throughout the day. He quickly coaches the use of skills learned in therapy. If he can’t answer at that moment he’s usually able to respond later that day or at the very least the following day.
If you want to reach out with any questions or to schedule an appointment, you can reach him by phone. His number is 053-808-0435, Whatsapp at +972 53 808 0435 or by email at info@jerusalemtherapy.org
How long does therapy take?
That is a tough question to answer because a lot of factors go into it.
First, each problem has a different level of severity. For example, research shows mild to moderate anxiety can take roughly 12 sessions to sort out.
Unfortunately, the real world doesn’t reflect research studies. Most people’s problems are a lot more complex than a single diagnosis. Someone suffering from severe anxiety, understandably, has developed other issues as well. Depression, chronic pain, social issues, and distrust of others are common co-occurring issues. Each problem needs to be untangled and addressed.
Second, the goals of therapy can change the time scale. Some people use therapy to explore their lives using as a path to self-discovery. That process can last as long as you have years in your life to spare. Others might come in with several issues but only want to work on one.
Third, how deep the problem goes is another consideration. Depression at age 25 due to a layoff can be quite serious but it’s also fairly straight forward to handle. In contrast, a personality disorder or abuse effects every area of life profoundly. These are deeply complex problem.
No matter what the problem, therapy is a powerful tool and can help you no matter what your situation is.
Is therapy worth the cost?
Therapy is an expense, especially when private. At the same time, the financial returns are enormous.
On a “numbers level” completing therapy correlates with a significant income increase. Suffering get in the way of creativity, productivity, and making vital networking connections.
Considering what you save, therapy is cost effective. Long term psychiatric visits and medication costs is sometimes necessary but expensive. In-patient treatment is sometimes due to putting off seeing a therapist. That has very high impact costs to a person’s professional life that are often avoidable.
Successful therapy also makes what you have “feel” better. Anxiety, marital conflict, and personality disorders are serious burdens. Often the lion’s share of those burdens are how they seep away life’s joys.
lastly, if the specific goal of therapy is to make more money, then it certainly is worth it. Clients coming to improve assertiveness and professional development come away increasing their income. Often those increases are two or three times what they were making before starting?
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