Why Taking Your Responsibility Is Different

Most of us are taking on other people's expectations. But what do you want to take on? Learn what is real and fake responsibility in this article.

Responsibility has a bad rap. For many, it’s tied up in authority figure’s, parent’s, and bad friend’s critical judgements. It leaves a bad taste in your mouth just thinking of the word. The accusation you’re not taking responsibility is often tactical. It’s a fancy way for others to demand more out of you at best and a powerful way to manipulate you at worst.
Sometimes this demand is fair. Before pushing back, give the devil his due. We do owe it to others to be there, support them, and do our fair share. Sometimes it’s hard to see and we need a good friend to give us a push. But, more often, we’re left with the all too familiar feeling of confusion and indignation. We internally respond, “You deal with it.” Externally, we find ourselves politely saying, “Anything else I can do for you?” Toxic responsibility is slavery. It kills the sense of aliveness and purpose we all thrive on. No one can live being another person’s tool for long. Toxic responsibility is not real responsibility.

Real responsibility turns you on. It sets you free. It electrifies you. It works that way because real responsibility taking is a deeply meaningful process. It’s the truest expression of your values, hopes for the world, and what you want your life to stand for. It’s your soul’s deepest murmurings expressed in action. The deeper you dig into articulating your unique values something powerful is revealed. The demand to act. To transform your most meaningful dreams into a reality. This is your unique life’s purpose.

When you hit the bedrock of your personal responsibility, life becomes complicated. There’s a deep demand within that moves you. The world can’t be like this. I can’t be like this. Something has to change. Yet, change doesn’t happen on its own. Electrified by your values and armed with a vision, taking responsibility ceases being a burden. It becomes freeing. A type of following the breadcrumb effect sets in – the more you understand what you, personally, must do the more responsibility you take on. No burden becomes too heavy. How could it? You carry these values already. All you’re doing is discovering them and breathing life into them through your actions


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About The Author

Raised in a rural farm town in Iowa, Yonasan Bender, L.C.S.W. combines small town values with powerful training. He provide clients with cutting-edge empirical knowledge, empathy, and timeless wisdom.

Yonasan’s a graduate of Hebrew University’s Paul Baerwald School of Social Work and Social Welfare. He completed post graduate training in a wide array of therapeutic approaches. These approaches range from CBT to Psychodynamic therapies. Before Hebrew University, he studied at Washington University in St. Louis and Drake University. Yonasan majored in philosophy and ethics.

Yonasan is a member of the Association For Contextual Behavioral Science. He’s a key member of the clinical team at The Place, the Jerusalem Centre for Emotional Wellbeing. Yonasan is a Dialectical Behavioral Therapist skills trainer at Machon Dvir. He’s also a group leader for the National Educational Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder’ Family Connections program.

He specializes in treating anxiety, depression, anger, poor self-esteem, insomnia, and marital conflict. He has an extensive background working with individuals, couples, families, and children.


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