Courage, Values, Healing
Committed and Ready
The most powerful instinct we can develop is honesty. It’s the only thing that can align us with reality and push us forward in our lives.
When we listen to honesty, we hear the familiar laundry list of problems in our life. The vast majority of us tune out halfway through. That’s a mistake because there’s a second list honesty wants to share: Those problems can be solved and your future can be what you want it to be. You are greater than you think.
Trained in over 30 approaches including CBT, behavioral, and psychoanalytic therapies
Rigorously committed to understanding and facilitating powerful, individualized change
Treatment methods based on solid empirical research ensure the best possible outcomes for clients
“The Privilege of a Lifetime is to Become Who You Truly Are.”
Founder & Psychotherapist
Rabbi Yonasan Bender
Raised in a rural farm town in Iowa, Rabbi Yonasan Bender, L.C.S.W., provides clients from all backgrounds with psychotherapy rooted in cutting-edge empirical research, warm human connection, and timeless wisdom.
A graduate of Hebrew University’s Paul Baerwald School of Social Work and Social Welfare, Rabbi Bender has also received multiple rabbinic ordinations from Rav Yitzchak Berkovits, שליט”א, among other certifications.
How Does Therapy Work?
Making a Start
Clients often ask if their problems are unusual. Unfortunately, the answer is no. Research shows that over 50% of people will, at one point in their life, suffer from a diagnosable mental health issue. There’s no shortage of pain or fear.
What makes folks that seek therapy even more unusual is their courage and vision. The fact they take their lives into their own hands and seek treatment is no small feat. Only a fraction of people who suffer seek therapy. These people dare to be more.
get to know Each Other other
Overcome Your Fears
Rabbi Bender Will Help You Every Step Of The Way
Begin the next stage of your life today
You Are Not Alone
With You Through
All of Life's Challenges
Thoughts, action, and feelings. We are deeply complex at every level. That’s why a single therapy approach can’t be a one size fits all. While every therapy tradition is extremely effective for most people it’s also important to find which approach works best for you. That’s why Rabbi Bender is trained in the major therapeutic traditions
Cognitive Behavioral Based Therapies
Behavioral Based Therapies
You Aren't the First Person to Face This
Over seventeen years of training have equipped Rabbi Bender to help you face the most difficult problems of your life head-on
important things you should know
Questions And Answers
The short answer is yes. Therapy is more effective than most medical procedures we trust without a second thought. Even within the world of psychology, it’s much more effective than medications for things like anxiety and depression and more cost effective in the long run without the side effects. On average, 80% of people who seek therapy do much better than those who choose not to.
Therapy is like any other medical approach. It’s science driven helping the vast majority of people. At the same time, different problems do require different “doses” of therapy. Some problems are more straight forward than others. Some issues can be reasonably sorted out after 12-16 sessions but others can take longer and be much more serious.
Not everyone responds to all medical procedures and therapy is no different. It’s more tricky because there is also the human element. If you don’t feel therapy is working for you with your therapist, talk to him about it and consider seeing someone else before giving up on it. It’s reasonable to try out three or more therapists before you settle on one to work with.
Most therapists don’t track their success rates. It’s understandable because each mental health problem is different, has different types of measures, different accepted definitions of success, take different amounts of time to sort out, and on top of it all each individual is unique.
At the same time, it’s a bad idea to ignore success rates especially since research shows over time most therapists become slightly less effective the longer they work. The only solution is for the therapist to check himself out. If therapists insist on “tracking the progress” of their clients, they should hold themselves to the same expectations and standards.
Rabbi Bender uses research validated psychological measures to asses his work and has found he has a 94% success rate with his clients. Practically, that rate is far above the average and means through the therapeutic process the problems clients come in with are brought down to normal “non-clinical” levels getting there lives back on track on their terms.
There are several phases in therapy.
Therapy begins with an assessment phase. During the first few sessions the goal is to figure out what the different issues on the table are. To what extent and where are they manifest in the client’s life? When do they occur and how do they unfold? Is there any other issues the client might not have thought of that also play a role directly or indirectly?
Different types of questionnaires and assessments are used to zero in accurately on the problems at hand. Often, people think their situation is worse than what it really is, so this phase often has the side effect of being the first positive therapeutic intervention. The assessment phase also helps track progress to see if the treatment is working, if something else should be tried, or a new direction explored.
Once the assessment phase is complete, the goals and targets are set to work towards. What success would look like is defined. Here the client and therapist also negotiate what type of style of therapy would work best. Not every type of therapy works the same, some are better at treating certain problems more than others, and clients might already have a preferred approach they know works for them
The last stage is working towards the goals and targets that were mutually established. Often, each session ends with a weekly assignment or an experiment to try. This aspect of treatment is key as it takes what is done inside the therapy hour and brings it into the client’s “real life”.
Rabbi Bender has a broad training covering all the major therapy traditions – cognitive, behavioral, psychoanalytic, and existential. This means he’s able to treat a wide range of issues ranging from anxiety and depression disorders to personality disorders, to limited cognitive functioning in multiple ways.
Each type therapy tradition, in theory, works for most problems but a large part of good outcomes has to do with what works best for the client. For some people the way out of depression is a cognitive approach. For others it’s a behavior based therapy.
Rabbi Bender sees individuals, couples, families, parents, and teens. You can check out his specialties section to learn more.
It’s important for the therapist to be available outside of treatment hours, on a limited basis, in order to take the tools learned in the session and apply them in the client’s real life.
For this reason Rabbi Bender does take phone calls throughout the day in order to quickly coach the use of skills learned in therapy. If he can’t answer at that moment he’s usually able to respond that day or at the very least the following day.
If you want to reach out with any questions or to schedule an appointment, you can reach him by phone at 053-808-0435, Whatsapp at +972 53 808 0435 or by email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Good therapy is research driven, supported by science, subjected to rigorous peer review, and tempered by clinical experience. For that reason, Rabbi Bender only practices approaches that are evidence-based.
A great resource to learn more about which therapies are supported by real research is the American Psychological Association’s Division 12 at https://www.div12.org/psychological-treatments. There you can explore the hundreds of therapies that have been shown to actually help people in an easy to understand format.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people out there practicing “treatments” that don’t work or actually do more harm than good. As a rule, anything called a”techniques,” or something that’s trademarked are serious red flags. The best you can hope for from these is a placebo effect.
Boot camps do more harm than good for troubled kids often resulting in physical harm. Many centers that treat addictions are authentic and save lives. Others, simply put, don’t and the outcomes can be tragic. The old adage, “buyer beware” is the best advice I can give.
That is a tough question to answer because a lot of factors go into it.
First, each problem has a different level of severity. For example, research shows mild to moderate anxiety can take roughly 12 sessions to sort out.
Unfortunately, the real world doesn’t reflect research studies. Most people’s problems are a lot more complex than a single diagnosis. Someone who suffers severe anxiety, quite understandably, has developed other issues as well like depression, chronic pain, social issues, and distrust of others. Each problem needs to be untangled and addressed.
Second, the goals of therapy can change the time scale. Some people use therapy to explore their lives using as a path to self discovery. That process can last as long as you have years in your life to spare. Others might come in with several issues but only want to work on one.
Third, how deep the problem goes is another consideration. Depression at age 25 because you were laid off can be quite serious but it’s also fairly straight forward to handle. In contrast, a personality disorder or a history of abuse effects every area of life profoundly and can be a deeply complex problem.
No matter what the problem, therapy is a powerful tool and can help you no matter what your situation is.
Therapy is an expense, especially when private. At the same time, the financial returns are enormous.
On a “numbers level” people who have gone through successful therapy make more money per hour in their profession. Emotional problems get in the way of creativity, productivity, scheduling, sleep, and making the interpersonal connections that are so vital to networking.
In terms of what you save, therapy is cost effective. Long term psychiatric visits on top of the costs for the medications is sometimes necessary but expensive. In-patient treatment at a psychiatric ward is sometimes the result of putting off seeing a therapist. That has very high impact costs to a person’s professional life or ability to advance that can be avoided.
Successful therapy also makes what you have “feel” better. Anxiety, conflict in marriage, a struggling child, or a personality disorder are serious burdens to carry that often seeps away the natural joys of life.
lastly, if the specific goal of therapy is to make more money, then it certainly is worth it. Clients who see me to work on their assertiveness and professional life usually come away increasing their income by three times what they were making before starting.